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Hasah
Joined : 12 Mar 2008
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 |  Subject: Re: If...........  Fri Jun 27, 2008 1:22 pm | |
| | Quote: | The Power of Words
Words have been a part of the human equation for countless centuries. Language changes with the times and new words are invented as necessity commands. One constant factor that always remains is that words are powerful things.
We use words to express feelings, ideas, to teach concepts, to entertain and comfort. Simple phrases like, "I love you." can bring forth feelings of warmth and closeness. Words can be arranged to make us laugh, cry, become nostalgic, or become inspired. We exercise our need to express ourselves before we are a year old. Not only does language reach we human beings, but we attempt to teach our pets so we may interact with them better.
As a poet I embrace words. I refer to my thesaurus trying to learn more words. I use plays on words, rhyming words, new words I've learned, long words, short words, powerful words. Words have painted sunrises for me, they've sobbed their pain, and they've offered hope. I don't always find myself comfortable in speaking words but give a pen to me, or a computer, and the words begin to flow. Sometimes they flow like a dripping faucet, sometimes they flow like an open dam. Either way words move, they speak loud with a strong voice.
Spoken words are verbal songs. The tone of voice and carefully placed accents tell the audience what we mean in spite of our words. You may tell someone, "You look very nice today." and truly express the meaning of the words. Conversely, with a little change in tone and accent "You look very nice today" can become an insult reeking of sarcastic overtones. The power of words is something that needs to be kept in our minds when we communicate. Words can be painful spiteful weapons.
The power of words is especially strong when we deal with a child. Children can be so easily affected by adults. They look up towards adults picking which ones they wish to become. They also listen to the words we say, the way we say them, and how often we say them. As we grow older we are able to become more discerning with information we read or hear, but children are more believing.
A child is a canvas that's slowly filled with the colors and shapes that form who they are and what they become. Each word we use has a color, each word has a shape. Each word adds to that canvas. Keeping in mind, the power of words, it's important to assume a responsibility in how we use words and what words we choose. If we were to call a child a name that's insulting and if we do it often, that child will relate to that name in time. If we tell a child they are worthless, they will soon feel worthless.
It's our responsibility to use words wisely as we communicate with those we share this planet with. It's even more important how we use words with children. Think before you speak, especially when you're angry or hurt. You don't need to hit a child to badly bruise them inside. It's wonderful to be able to use words, use them wisely and use them well. The words you speak today will form the hearts of tomorrow.
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was trying to finish my post... so it's here instead
I try my hardest to not play the stupid games I grew up with, insults, you're no good, a disappointment & all the rest & yeah... when I was a kid THAT was Catholic to me & getting drunk & getting hit & all the rest so I'm sorry I'm still healing from junk & still have to hear that I disappoint & all the rest. |
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| | Subject: Re: If........... Fri Jun 27, 2008 1:33 pm | |
| | Quote: | | was trying to finish my post. |
After you just finished saying you weren't going to post anymore! Why don't you take Story up on her offer to discuss Catholicism and what you missed the first time around? You claim you're not comfortable posting on boards, yet here you are continuing to post on topics that have nothing to do with Catholicism.
| Quote: | | I try my hardest to not play the stupid games I grew up with, insults, you're no good, a disappointment & all the rest & yeah... when I was a kid THAT was Catholic to me & getting drunk & getting hit & all the rest so I'm sorry I'm still healing from junk & still have to hear that I disappoint & all the rest. |
Hasah, you need to understand that this is a Catholic board to discuss Catholic issues. Sure, we have a few forums for fellowship and games, but none of us are in any way equipped to help someone who needs to "get all the junk out" from years of childhood abuses. There may be boards out there that exist for this purpose, I don't know. But this is not one of them. That's not intended to be harsh but to be realistic. |
| | | | Hasah
Joined : 12 Mar 2008
Posts : 115
| | Subject: Re: If........... Fri Jun 27, 2008 2:18 pm | |
| | OK, so it's normal here to insult people & say 'insane'? or say 'crap'.... the Protestant boards I used to be on never used words like 'crap' or saying stuff was insane because someone wanted to learn more than one OS. This is intended to be realistic as well... I try real hard to get over my old qualms w/ what I blamed on Catholicism for a long long time. Some things I still don't comprehend. I was merely stating why it's better not to lash out at someone on a board... calling them insane and all the rest of the 'crap'. I used to love using all those 'gutter' words, trying to not go back there either. Are we typing messages like being in a bar or trying to be on real Catholic issues? And that as well is not intended to be harsh but realistic. I'm not the only one in the world that went through junk and you're bound to run into someone else at some point. I never played singling out people just to rip them apart and maybe I misunderstand that. But that's what I mean sorting out what was Catholic & what wasn't cuz for a long time Catholic really made me angry but that was because I lumped it in with everything. Words still have power now. |
| | | | Portia
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| | Subject: Re: If........... Fri Jun 27, 2008 2:34 pm | |
| | Quote: | | OK, so it's normal here to insult people & say 'insane'? or say 'crap'.... the Protestant boards I used to be on never used words like 'crap' or saying stuff was insane |
I don't particularly like the use of those words or expressions and I've asked that they not be used on this board. That said, you claimed that you had straightened things out with him. How many times do you want to go over this?
| Quote: | | I try real hard to get over my old qualms w/ what I blamed on Catholicism for a long long time. Some things I still don't comprehend. |
Then take advantage of Story's offer! She's more than qualified to help you comprehend and she's very willing to do it! You keep using the reason as you don't need to be on boards, you shouldn't be posting, and yet you continue to post on personal subjects and not Catholicism.
| Quote: | | I was merely stating why it's better not to lash out at someone on a board... calling them insane and all the rest of the 'crap'. |
I agree with that. I don't like use of those words. People say things and do not mean them in the literal sense, however. On boards, though, there can be a lot of misunderstanding just from the written words so it's best not to use anything that might be offensive or ambiguous. But how many times do you want to refer to this? When is it over?
| Quote: | | I'm not the only one in the world that went through junk and you're bound to run into someone else at some point. |
Maybe. But in all the years I've been on boards, I've never run into anyone before who had all this "junk" to get over. This is not the type of forum for getting over "junk." It's where we debate and discuss Catholic doctrines.
| Quote: | | But that's what I mean sorting out what was Catholic & what wasn't cuz for a long time Catholic really made me angry but that was because I lumped it in with everything. |
But you're an adult now and you know enough to disassociate the actions of people who are Catholics with the doctrines of the Church. |
| | | | Hasah
Joined : 12 Mar 2008
Posts : 115
| | Subject: Re: If........... Fri Jun 27, 2008 3:09 pm | |
| | Because in the flesh I totally don't want to be here but keeps seeming like I'm not supposed to leave. Do I battle with that? Yes I do. I know I shouldn't have left Catholicism & know I shouldn't have blamed things I did on Catholic. That's what meant by an 'awareness'... That's why I posted that papal document regarding evil in the world. I keep going between should I attempt such a board again that deals with stuff I don't see on Catholic boards or is it just my own wants coming into play... what I want vs God's will for me? There's a lot I learned in my Protestant days that I didn't know as a Catholic but I know that wasn't the fault of Catholicism or even home for that matter... we're all responsible for our selves. On judgment day I can't sit there & say, "But Jesus what about this this & this..."... no, it's going to be what did I do, what did I learn? What did I sow & reap, what efforts did I make to help further Jesus' message... how did I help those who might be hurting or coming out of NAM junk realizing it was NOT the way to go in spite of Harry Potter, psychic cafes and new age shops. There won't be any 'but but but so & so said & blah blah', no, it will be what did I do? ME, did I do anything? And I'm sorry, I really am. |
| | | | Portia
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| | Subject: Re: If........... Fri Jun 27, 2008 3:20 pm | |
| | Quote: | | Because in the flesh I totally don't want to be here but keeps seeming like I'm not supposed to leave. |
Frankly, I don't think you're supposed to stay and rehash the same things over and over and over, or post and delete, post and delete.
| Quote: | | On judgment day I can't sit there & say, "But Jesus what about this this & this..."... no, it's going to be what did I do, what did I learn? What did I sow & reap, what efforts did I make to help further Jesus' message... how did I help those who might be hurting or coming out of NAM junk realizing it was NOT the way to go in spite of Harry Potter, psychic cafes and new age shops. There won't be any 'but but but so & so said & blah blah', no, it will be what did I do? ME, did I do anything? |
If you feel your calling is to help NA, we have little to no traffic from New Agers. There are plenty of New Age boards where you might be able to offer assistance.
If there is much you don't comprehend yet about Catholicism as you recently stated then you need to learn all that you missed the first time around before you venture off to help others.
But then there's the dilemma of whether you need to stay away from boards, post or not post. You need to resolve these issues in your own mind before you can help anyone. |
| | | | Hasah
Joined : 12 Mar 2008
Posts : 115
| | Subject: Re: If........... Fri Jun 27, 2008 3:28 pm | |
| I know... and I need a safe place. Still remember Ligori back in the 80's with a whole section on Halloween and I think they even covered Samhain (druids, etc) in that article... all hollow's eve... used to get upset at Catholic regarding that a few years ago but realize now it wasn't set up to promote NAM... all souls & all saints days.... but for alternatives. Just need to know a place is safe, that's all. And yeah, no traffic because there's nothing that would prompt it yet. Maybe it's just a dumb dream that I can make a difference. Used to think I'd have a book published, dumb dreamer.
And power of words refers to what I'd still be dealing with if I 'try to make amends' ... now, present day... not rehashing... just junk I need to pray about & guess shouldn't post about it it seems... just don't know. |
| | | | Portia
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| | Subject: Re: If........... Fri Jun 27, 2008 4:57 pm | |
| | Quote: | | I know... and I need a safe place. |
Obviously, you do not feel safe here to post then come back and delete, post/delete/post/delete. Someone who feels safe is not going to do that. You've refused Story's offer because you need to get off boards, not post, etc.
But realistically, there are no safe message boards that are open to the public. These boards are created for debate and discussion and all kinds of people are welcome here. We're all human with all the human frailities of our condition. We have bad days and become irritated the same as anyone else. Sometimes we don't choose our words carefully enough, sometimes we feel we have to be too careful. Boards are not safe places for someone who needs the constant reassurance of safety and wants to talk about personal issues. We have our own personal issues and struggles to deal with as well. We're not equipped for that and never will be. Our purpose is to discuss Catholic doctrines.
| Quote: | Maybe it's just a dumb dream that I can make a difference. Used to think I'd have a book published, dumb dreamer.
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As far as making a difference, you have to know what you missed as I've already explained to you, and you need to feel safe first posting in open forums. You have to resolve these issues before you can help others.
FWIW, from what I've read of your poetry I don't think it's a dumb dream if you are talking about having a book published in that genre.
| Quote: | And power of words refers to what I'd still be dealing with if I 'try to make amends' ... now, present day... not rehashing... just junk I need to pray about & guess shouldn't post about it it seems... just don't know.
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Hasah, you do rehash what you experienced, and what you call all this "junk you need to get rid of." You already know that's junk so put that behind you. |
| | | | Hasah
Joined : 12 Mar 2008
Posts : 115
| | Subject: Re: If........... Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:32 pm | |
| sorry, last edit...
Need a break from boards for a while, until life gets a little more normal. Too many changes these days & need a respite.
God bless |
| | | | Portia
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| | Subject: Re: If........... Sun Jun 29, 2008 12:06 pm | |
| | Then please do take a break. Everyone understands that you need one. I need periodic breaks and I'm sure others do as well. |
| | | | Hasah
Joined : 12 Mar 2008
Posts : 115
| | Subject: Re: If........... Sun Jun 29, 2008 9:14 pm | |
| | Will be back eventually, need to keep listening to the catechism, EWTN... stuff that shouldn't seem foreign does seem foreign. EWTN search on Mary, listened to the last one about St. Maximilian Kolbe, there's a part II too I guess. I had a book about him from the 80's but lost that when I left ... had a biography about JPII too including the underground schools & Churches during WWII. I know I read both (or think I did) all the way through back then. I just put a lot of blocks in my way of learning I think the first time around... including the stupidness of me back then flirting with NAM junk but junk kept luring me back then. Nothing could lure me back into it now. No more horoscopes & other goofy deceptions. Been there, done that & ain't playing that again. |
| | | | Hasah
Joined : 12 Mar 2008
Posts : 115
| | Subject: Re: If........... Tue Jul 01, 2008 6:54 pm | |
| I do wish you all a blessed holiday and prayerfully some day I can end my disruptive legacy. And nobody refused any offer. Have a sick cat, have a crisis job-wise... as in need one. I hope things mend, I'm sure it was my stress level and I apologize. Lots to do tomorrow & hope it results in a job. God bless.
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Just updating this instead of plopping another post. I know I messed up, way at the beginning and recently. Also know I'm trying my best... still getting dumb suggestions that I should do disability but sorry I don't qualify & don't have the funding to play the game. I was debt free & now I owe & will for quite a while but hopefully will be looking at more stable employment, then again these days who knows. I still see people losing jobs around me a lot but got to keep on keeping on and I know that. This is silly small potatoes to what a lot of people get & even silly small potatoes to junk I already went through... just didn't last as long but when you're in what appears to be an endless rut all you can do is climb out of it and God willing I will & this will be something to laugh about a few years down the road. Again I'm very sorry.. |
| | | | Hasah
Joined : 12 Mar 2008
Posts : 115
| | Subject: Re: If........... Wed Jul 02, 2008 12:25 am | |
| And shoot, what am I saying? On and off job hunt for 3 yrs, laid off twice... that's short compared the near decade hanging over my head wandering if I'd go blind. And I met a few blind people and talked to them, one even back in my BBS days, ran his own board & not in the US. God brought me through all that junk... whether or not I brought on it all myself or just my body going goofy doesn't matter, don't care, it's past. Will have to always keep tabs on it but I know I gotta keep going. Pressing on to the goal. I'm far from perfect, never pretend to be, I've done a lot of dumb stupid things in my life and I obviously still mess up but I will keep going and hopefully learn a more steady gait.
Someone told me 'I'm just depressed', no, not going to listen to it... I'm stressed but not going to think I'm depressed... I have tasks at hand that have a high priority level. Need to learn to act better & not let the gunk effect me. Honestly don't want to lash out at anyone, don't even want to leave but don't want to be causing problems either. And don't think I'm not baffled yet at me for how long I was gone. Not counting anything hopeless. I don't play that. |
| | | | Hasah
Joined : 12 Mar 2008
Posts : 115
| | Subject: Re: If........... Wed Jul 02, 2008 11:45 am | |
| Was thinking one other thing... afterthought... mad at God ever? No, even in the midst of getting shots in my eye, cryogenics treatments, steroid IVs, even w/ 3rd cranial nerve inflammation... I was mad at the situation and yeah wanted to whine and ask 'why?' but wasn't ever mad at God. I never quite understood the purpose of getting mad at God. I still remember being in a friend's car getting a ride after a doc's appt with my cane when my balance was all messed up, pounding it on the floor inside & crying & asking "WHY?" but I wasn't mad at God. Sure did make me get more serious though but still had my smarty sense of humor during my doc apts back then... had to, needed it for my sanity.
Now that's all history. No more waking up to swirls of blood in my vision & watching the world turn into a moving blob in my sight. No more fear that it will happen in my good eye... yeah it's still possible, anything is possible but I'd be pretty dumb to be mad at God about that if it did happen. None of it was ever life threatening, just quality of life threatening... would have had to learn new ways of doing things... like reading braille or using a white & red cane... all that went through my head near the beginning of that decade. Life would have went on as it does now & I would have needed to learn how to cope with it or be one whiny something.
I never understood & probably never will understand getting mad at God. That's floating in the middle of the ocean trying to swim or keep your head above water so you can breathe... someone throws you a life preserver and you get mad at it.... Of course God is a lot more than a life preserver... that's a lame comparison but best I can do off the top of my head. |
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